Renee Finds a Home for Mom
Change isn’t something most of us take lightly. Most of us feel comfortable in our surroundings and dread the thought of ever giving up our homes.
In my personal experience change came for my mother when my father passed. They had been married for 56 years, built their home with their own hands and lived in a small town their whole lives.
I knew something had to change when Mom fell
Within 6 months of my father passing my mother became very forgetful, and she was not paying her bills or eating. I tried everything to keep her in her home but when she fell backwards down the basement steps and laid there for 24 hours, it became clear something had to change.
As Mom’s caregiver – making decisions & managing change
I am an only child so I needed to bring my mother here to Springfield to be near me. We went through the arguing phase and denial phase and the decluttering phase.
The auction company takes everything – literally
We decided to have an auction company handle most of the belongings because my mother needed to downsize. So when the day came for the auction company to come my mother laid on the floor and watched them take her china, silverware, furniture, beds, treadmill, all of my father’s tools, and collectibles. When auction day came we went to the auction and my mother sat and watched as all her lifetime accumulation of possessions one by one being auctioned off. I am sharing this with you because shortly after the auction, when I called to collect our check, I was informed that the auction company filed for bankruptcy and we would not be able to collect anything. My mother took this very hard.
The move to independent living with home care leads to additional losses
I found an independent living facility that she liked, and we got her all moved. I started having home care come in and help her and got her an alert button. After about a month, we started noticing missing jewelry, money, her beloved iPad that she loved to listen to music on, and her nook that she read her books on because she needed large print. The final straw was when I noticed her SUV was sideswiped on both sides. When I confronted this well-known agency, their response was simply you can’t prove it.
Assisted living – and broken bones
With my mother declining, we decided assisted living was the avenue to take. It was all great for quite some time until leadership changed and my mother fell and broke her arm, then her ankle then both hips! After lots of rehab, we moved Mom again, and this time with a happy ending.
Private home care for aging seniors proves to be the answer
My mother is currently in a private home for aging seniors with five other residents. They have a caregiver, a nurse around the clock and a director that lives on site! The property is beautiful and my mother is thriving.
Let my family’s experience help you and your family with aging transitions
I want to use all of my experience on what NOT to do to help aging seniors and their families find solutions that really work. Linda and I have sought out and aligned with trusted, insured and bonded individuals who will do the best job to help you from start to finish with home transitions as you or a loved one ages. We have walked in your shoes and we are here to help you at your pace.