Linda Finds a Home for Mom
Mom’s 2-year journey home
The journey to find a home for Mom, we thought, would be an easy one, since it was my 89-year-old mother’s idea.
But it didn’t turn out that way!
Mom’s choice to move
My sisters and I were thrilled to hear Mom was ready to look at senior living communities. We went through the exhausting and confusing senior living interviews – room tours, lunches, talking with activity directors – and she finally agreed to move to beautiful 55+ year old independent living community.
Delays led to second-guessing
BUT…Mom’s house did not sell for 2 years! And this gave Mom time to vacillate between staying her new community and going back to her home. Mom had moved “physically” but, not “psychologically!”
Just stuff or cherished memories?
Going through my mother’s belongings was overwhelming. She did not have enough room in her new place to keep everything, and it was difficult for her to make the decisions about what to keep and what she couldn’t. It felt cold and was heart-wrenching, both for her and for our family. Items that were “just stuff” to us represented cherished memories to Mom.
A happy ending for a social butterfly
Today, I’m I am happy to say Mom is well, happy and comfortable! Her home sold and my Mom is now a “Social Butterfly!” She is hardly ever in her retirement apartment. She is either bowling (she brags her team is consistently #1), participating in talent shows or with her choral group or playing cards! “MOM, answer your phone!” She has more of a social life than I do! She is “Young at Heart!”
And, I sure got an education on “WHAT NOT TO DO!”